Life is not easy. It is not. Especially now. Don’t try to make it that way. Life’s not fair; it never was, it isn’t now and it never will be.
Do not fall into the trap; the entitlement trap, of feeling like a victim. You are not. Get over it and get on with it.
So the question we have got to ask ourselves is; what is success to us? What is success to you?
Is it to lose body fat? Is it to run that 5k race? It is to complete that first pull up? It is to be a healthy role model to your kids or even your grandkids? It is to get over an illness or injury? Is it to be better on the sporting field? Is it simply to feel better?
Continue to ask yourself that question. Now your answer may change over time and that’s fine, but do yourself this favour. Whatever your answer is, don’t choose anything that will jeopardise it. Because where you are not is just as important as where you are.
The first step that leads to your success in the gym is usually not “I know where I am”. The first step is knowing where you are NOT.
This is the process of elimination. Defining our goals by where we are not is the first step to knowing where we really are in that process.
You know that group of friends that really don’t help to support your goals and make you feel bad about trying something new. Or that smartphone screen that gives you an excuse to not get out the house and explore the world around you. Or that food you keep eating that tastes so good going down, but makes you feel like crap the next week when you are lethargic and keep putting on weight.
Those people, those things, that food – just stop giving them your time and energy. Don’t go there. Put them down. When you do this, when you put them down, when you quit going there, when you stop giving them your time; you inadvertently find yourself spending more time, in more places that are HEALTHY for you. That bring you more JOY.
Why? Because you just eliminated the who’s, the where’s, the what’s and the when’s that were keeping you from achieving everything you want to achieve. Too many options are our biggest problem. Get rid of the excess. The wasted time. Decrease your options.
If you do this, you would of accidentally and innocently put in front of you exactly what is important to you by process of elimination.
Knowing what you want to achieve is hard. Knowing what you don’t want to achieve is easy. Instead of creating outcomes that take from you, create more outcomes that keep your fire lit for the most amount of time in your future.
Is that starting a new training programme? Joining that gym you said you would? Going for a run every Monday with a friend? Taking up a new sport? Speaking to that personal trainer? Sticking to eating healthy, home cooked meals? To stop buying takeaways?
Since we are the architects of our own lives; lets study the habits, the practices and the routines that we have, that lead to and feed our success.
Regret kills many a person before their time. So turn the page, get off that ride; you are the author of the book of your life.
This article is based on the words of Matthew McConaughey – listen to them here